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Month of Fasting

Our friends in Chad, as well as all Muslims around the world, are now in their most religious month of the Islamic calendar – Ramadan. This is a time for followers of Jesus – you and me – to pray fervently for God to work in the hearts and lives of many who are following a false religion and have a false sense of hope that their sins may be forgiven. This year, Ramadan will last from May 27 – June 25.

What is Ramadan?

Fasting is one of the five pillars of Islamic faith. Ramadan is the holy month where all Muslims fast from sunrise to sunset and feast in the evening and early morning hours. In addition to the other pillars, fasting is practiced in hopes that Allah will have pity on the Muslim and forgive him of his sins. Of course, as those who follow Jesus and the teaching of Scripture, we know that this is false hope. The only hope any of us has for forgiveness of sins is by faith alone in Jesus – apart from any works.

What does Ramadan look like in Chad?

I recently messaged a friend online to ask her if she was fasting. Her response to me was, “Yes, WE are fasting.” It is very much a communal practice. We have observed men and women who will not even swallow their own saliva (at least in public) in an effort to prove to others around them that they are following the rules perfectly. We hear stories of people who secretly “cheat,” but we haven’t seen this firsthand. We know pregnant women and nursing mothers who choose to fast during Ramadan, because otherwise they must make up the 30 days of fasting during the rest of the year on their own. Despite the difficulties this creates for the unborn or young child, it is easier for the mother to fast while everyone around them is doing it.

How can we pray during Ramadan?

  • Pray for the very few believers in our town who will not be fasting, but will experience much scrutiny, shame, and even persecution (name-calling, etc.) Ask God to strengthen their faith and unity among one another.
  • Pray for those who are genuinely seeking for Truth to feel the emptiness of this fast. Pray that they would long for a Savior that can take away their sins once and for all.
  • Pray for the health of those who are fasting – temperatures are soaring above 100 degrees F these days and many will suffer from not drinking or eating during the day.

A Visit to the Nomads

Tuesday morning, as I prepared to leave for my language lesson, I received a call from my language tutor, Noah, with a request very typical of life here. He said one of his relatives had come to Abeche from the countryside to bring his wife to the doctor. They had finished at the doctor and were ready to re-join the rest of their family in the countryside, where they are camped along with their camels, sheep and goats. They are Arab nomads, originally from the Arabian peninsula but having lived in eastern Chad for generations. They spend the dry season in the southeast of Chad where their animals can find food and water, and then as the rains begin in June they start to make their way north towards the Sahara desert. The region we live in is called the Sahel, from the Arabic word meaning “shore” or “coastline”. The Sahel serves as the coastline for the vast sea of sand that makes up the largest desert in the world – the Sahara. As the rains fall, the Sahel blooms in a thick blanket of green grass, like a giant carpet rolled out over the barren landscape. It’s really quite beautiful.

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Anyway, my friend’s request was that I drive him, his brother, and his brother’s wife out to their camp in the bush. He said “it’s not far, and the roads are good”.  I thought about it briefly and agreed. We would do our language lesson on the road today.

So I grabbed some water, my Leatherman, GoPro camera and told Kimberly I’d be back after while. I threw my toolbox in my Land Cruiser, topped off the air in my tires, and headed to Noah’s house. There I met some additional family members who were visiting and after some customary greetings we loaded up and headed out of town.

Or at least we tried to head out of town. We couldn’t find the “road” that leads north out of town towards our destination. We drove around in town for a while, asking various people for directions. At one point we reached what we thought was the road, but as we started down it some military guys came out into the road and waved us down. Thinking this was just the normal checkpoint always found on the outskirts of town, I slowed down and prepared to stop. But I wasn’t slowing down quick enough apparently, and one solder briefly started to raise his AK-47 before I came to a complete halt. I realized quickly that this was not the road, and so after asking directions from the soldiers we turned around to try again.

Finally, we found the road and began heading north out of town. Not far out of town, we veered off the “main road” and headed across the green fields along a dirt path. We drove for 30 minutes or so along the path through the bright green grass and rocky, rolling hills. We passed some nomad families moving down the path.

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The camel train as seen from my GoPro camera mounted on the dash.

They were loaded with all their belongings and their women were mounted on the camels, sitting in baskets covered in fabric. Cooking pots and various other household items hung from the baskets, swaying rhythmically with the awkward gait of the camels. Such a fascinating sight to see, like peeking into another world.

We finally arrived at the camp of Noah’s family, where we got out of the Land Cruiser and began the extensive greetings that are the custom of Arabs.

“asalaam alekum”
“wa alekum asalaam”
“allah yabarik fii”
“machallah”
“keff aafee”
“aafee taybiin”
“amin”
“keff nasak”
“aafee al hamdulilah”

And on and on, repeating many of the greetings over and over again for probably 2 minutes. Long greetings are customary here – the longer the time apart and the closer the relationship, the longer the greeting. There were hugs, handshakes, more hugs and the rapid-fire greetings without so much as a breath. It doesn’t seem to be important to listen to what the other person says and respond, so much as just to rattle off a bunch of greetings and blessings as quickly as possible for as long as possible. After greeting Noah each person would turn to me and offer similar greetings. I gave it my best shot, but my greeting skills still need some work!

After the greetings we were taken to sit down on a mat underneath a big shade tree where the other men were sitting. A large bowl of fresh camel’s milk was set before us and we were encouraged to drink. So I picked up up the bowl with both hands and drank several mouthfuls of the warm milk. Not bad, but it had a very strong, “gamey” taste. Noah drank his share, enjoying a delicacy that is difficult to find in town but something he grew up drinking regularly. He’s told me stories of going days with nothing but camel’s milk to drink. He swears you could survive indefinitely on it.

As we drank our milk, Noah talked with the men. I picked up words, sometimes whole phrases, but I wasn’t really following the discussion. I was just looking around, taking in the scenery, feeling blessed at the privilege of living in this exotic place.

After another half hour or so, we started to leave but the men insisted we stay and drink tea. We capitulated, sitting back down. The tea came shortly after, strong green tea with as much sugar as water I think. I drank a glass, and they poured another. Not wanting to reject their hospitality I drank the second. They poured another. I drank the third, and finally told them that was enough. Noah was amused by this, knowing that I don’t drink a lot of tea.

As we prepared (again) to leave, someone brought out a large 5 liter jug, one that formerly contained motor oil. They had rinsed it out and I soon realized that it was for us to take the camel’s milk with us. They carefully poured the milk in the jug and gave it to us. Noah was thrilled.

With many more words, we finally departed, but not without first acquiring a goat and a sheep as gifts. They wanted to give Noah a baby camel, but he politely declined. It’s difficult to overstate the bonds of loyalty between extended family in this part of the world. They depend on each other for everything, from companionship to protection to jobs and the daily necessities such as food and shelter. The extended family is used much like a savings account – depositing gifts, favors, etc. and expecting help to be there when it is needed most. When someone experiences a loss – loss of home, theft, sickness, whatever, the community and family come together to help replace it. Individualism is nearly non-existent here. Seeing this in action reminds me what a person stands to lose for following Christ – not simply the relationships of family and friends but their entire support structure will often collapse. I wonder how many American Christians would follow Christ if the cost was so high. It’s a long way from “Your Best Life Now”.

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Posing for a picture just before leaving

We finally drove back across the green carpet towards Abeche, stopping once to top off our jug of camel’s milk from a herd of camels along the road. Noah called the young shepherd boy over and told him he wanted milk, so the boy took the jug, went over to the nearest female camel, and topped off the jug. Apparently the camel won’t give milk unless her baby is there, so the shepherd boy called the baby camel over first.

When we arrived at the checkpoint to enter Abeche, a soldier wanted to catch a ride into town with us. I have a policy of not refusing people with guns unless absolutely necessary, so we told him to hop in and we were off. He didn’t realize we had a sheep and a goat just behind him in the back of the Land Cruiser, but at one point the sheep cried out, “Baaaaaa!” right in his ear and he nearly jumped out of his seat. We all had a good laugh.

When we arrived back to Noah’s house, he insisted on giving me some of the camel’s milk. He poured it into an empty coke bottle, and also promised to share the meat from the goat and sheep when he slaughters them. I told him he could just share it around with his neighbors, but he insisted that I must share some too. So I guess I should make some room in the fridge for a fresh leg of lamb…

Making Perfume, Waiting on a Baby

In Chad, having a baby is a huge event to be celebrated. Women have many children, but even number 9, 10, 11, or 12 warrants a huge party, the killing of a sheep, and the giving of many gifts for the baby and mother.

One way that the mother prepares for having a baby is to make “doukhon” which is a perfume-soaked sandalwood that is placed on top of hot coals. The woman puts it under her skirt and the smoke makes her clothes smell perfume-y after having a baby. She also places a tall hoop over the doukhon and lays the baby’s blankets or bedding on top to make it smell good. In addition to using it for personal use, it is an important thing to share with the women visitors who come to greet the mother and new baby.

I had the privilege of taking pictures for an expectant friend as she and her sister made the doukhon. It involves pounding the sandalwood bark, pouring lots of different perfume on it, and mixing it with sugar. The finished product is a sticky, fragrant wood ready to be burned and infused into clothes and bedding.

 

 

Farming – Chadian Style

Many Chadians are subsistence farmers. Often they’ll have a small plot of land on the outskirts of town – a few acres where they’ll plant crops during the rainy season. Our house helper, Ashta, owns a fairly large plot just outside of Abeche. Every year, starting in early or late June, depending on when the first rains come, she prepares her field for planting. She plants millet, peanuts, and sometimes okra, not to sell but just to supplement her family’s food supply during the year. We have greatly enjoyed visiting her in her fields, where the boys like to help with the work and just wander around, exploring. Yesterday we went to see how they plow the field in preparation for planting. Sometimes they use tractors, although they are old, expensive and they break down often. Other times, like yesterday, they use horse or ox drawn plows, which are much more reliable. It’s a whole family affair, since kids in Chad are let out of school for the entire rainy season for this very purpose. So every day Ashta’s kids are out in the field while she’s working at our house, and then when she leaves around noon she joins them.

Visitors for Eid

Last week was the big holiday celebrating the end of the fasting month. Everyone gets new clothes, makes lots of cookies, and accepts lots of visitors. It was a very full week for us with three days of visiting and receiving guests at our home. Despite some young boys taking advantage of the holiday distractions by stealing cash and electronics from Danielle’s house, we really enjoyed our time in the community.

How to Make Chadian Cookies

  1. Pour a large bowl (“koro”) of flour into a big basin.
  2. Add salt. (If salt grains are large, place them in water to dissolve.)
  3. Pour in baking powder (called “baking poodr”)
  4. Take fly out of large oil bottle and pour oil into a coke bottle (this is your “measuring cup”).
  5. Pour oil into flour and mix with your hand.
  6. Find a short table to press out cookies. (Standing up is not an option because that is way too long to stand up and your legs will get tired. Sitting or squatting on the ground is how Chadians cook.)
  7. Add in sugar and knead the dough (or cut out shapes with cookie cutters).
  8. Pound white sugar into powdered sugar at your house (takes 20 minutes to pound).
  9. Pour oil on pan; spread it out with your hands.
  10. Put as many cookies on the pan as possible (cookies won’t rise very much).
  11. Decorate cookies with powdered sugar and small metal device made from an oil can which will make designs on the cookes.
  12. Try not to eat all the cookies before the visitors come on Eid!

 

Ramadan

We are more than halfway through Ramadan 2016! What does this mean? It means that people are more than halfway through the 30 obligatory days of fasting from food and drink during the day, hoping God will see this “good deed” and erase their sins.

Even my neighbors who are pregnant or nursing are fasting. “Why?” I ask. Islam allows them to make up the fasting days later if people are sick, pregnant, etc. The answer is always the same: it is easier to fast now while everyone is doing it than trying to make up days alone at a later date. This group mentality is where our friends live everyday.

They are beginning to look towards “Eid” where the children get new clothes, people make their houses look nice, and everyone visits family and friends for one or two days. The market will begin to get busier than normal as people prepare. This is one of the biggest holidays for Muslims. We will be preparing, too, to greet children with candy or local cookies; and we will go visiting in our neighborhood in our nicest clothes.

As Ramadan 2016 continues, we are having more conversations about how and when we fast according to Scripture. Pray for more conversations about the kind of fast God desires. People here know we are different. We are praying that the differences point them to the cross and their need for a Savior who can wash away their sins once and for all.

God’s Law Written on Our Hearts

“I will put my laws into their minds,

and write them on their hearts,

and I will be their God,

and they shall be my people.”

Hebrews 8:10

You and I both live in  places where a works-based religion is prevalent. Islam teaches that the good works people do (praying, giving to the poor, fasting, etc.) may or may not benefit them after they die. In America, Islam is not the main religion, but the trap of trying to work for our own righteousness is still one that many of us fall into whether we realize it or not:

“He’s a good person and he goes to church every week.”

“I gave over ten percent of my tithe to the Lord’s work last year.”

The examples could go on. I was encouraged in reading Hebrews 8:10 that God promises a new and better covenant through Jesus Christ. No longer is it necessary for “sacrifices offered that cannot perfect the conscience of the worshiper, but deal only with food and drink and various washings…” (9:9). God, through Jesus, offers His law to be written on our hearts, changing us from the inside out.

My prayer is that our Muslim friends here in Chad and our “Christian” or secular friends in America will come to understand that nothing – not participating in obligatory fasting, not being super-involved in church ministry, not giving to the poor, not being a missionary overseas – will save us from our sin other than the grace of God though our Lord, Jesus Christ. What freedom we can live in and what freedom we have to proclaim!

Confronting Culture with Truth

Unknown visitor: “Hello, can you help me?”

Me: “Hello, what exactly do you need?”

Visitor: “My son is sick and I want to take him to the witch doctor for healing. I would like you to give me a gift of money to help us travel.”

Me: “I am sorry, ma’am. I cannot give you money for that. I can give you money for a prescription at the pharmacy if you have one and I would like to pray for your son now. I know that God created your son and He has the power to heal your son. He does not need the help of a witch doctor.”

(We pray.)

Lady begins to leave: “Thank you for praying for us. Good-bye.”

Me: “We are followers of Jesus. I know many stories in the injiil (New Testament) of Jesus helping and healing sick people. If you want to come back to visit me, I would be happy to tell you some of these stories and explain more about what the injiil teaches.”

 

A Bittersweet Birthday

Remember a year ago when I asked you to pray for a little baby who was born premature to a mother who had committed adultery? She was shamed by her family, was not responsive to the baby’s cries for milk, and was considering running away or giving the baby to the orphanage. A week after he was born, baby A. gained any weight and I took him and his mother to a clinic to get some help. We didn’t know if he would live or die. My friend and I had opportunities to love this mother and baby in very practical ways as well as share the gospel with her.

Fast forward a year. (Can it really already be a full year?!) The mother is now my language partner and helps others in town with language as well. God has shown himself faithful to her, although she refuses to pursue the truths we continue to present about sin, forgiveness, God’s love through Jesus and his provision for her.

We celebrated baby A’s first birthday in a subdued sort of way; he recently spent days in the hospital and is malnourished as a result of the sickness. His birthday was a celebration of God’s faithfulness in sustaining him this past year, but also a somber time as we recognized he has a long way to go before he has a chance of surviving past early childhood.

We ate banana cake and talked about prescription doses. We read Scripture with his family and gave gifts of new clothes, but also gave eggs, bananas, avocadoes and other nourishing foods to get him well. A week or so after his birthday, he was officially diagnosed as malnourished and is receiving a supplement to help him gain quickly. In addition to the extra food we try to give during the week, he gained a good amount in one wee and will continue on this regimen for a while.

A’s family is still not ready to embrace the gospel, but my prayer for this little boy and his family is that they will one day have a wonderful testimony to share of God’s relentless love for them through Jesus. Pray with me for A and  his mother and family to lay aside their sinfulness and embrace the God of Scripture – a loving, just, holy God.

Pictures below:

Left – Calla Grace (3 months) next to baby A (almost one year).

Right – Baby A at his birthday party.

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